Hey there! It’s Wednesday! I hope you all are doing great. I’m hosting my first romance event at a local brewery. I’m very nervous, but I hope it has a good turn out. I also have free books to give away. If you’re in the area, please stop by and say hello!
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Many of you have enjoyed watching Set It Up on Netflix. If you’ve loved it, Netflix has several other similar titles coming out this summer. I’m most excited about the To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before adaptation.
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Alisha Rai is at Shondaland talking about living with debt and I can relate to this so hard:
I knew going into law school that I was borrowing more money than I had for undergrad, which I’d already paid off in full at relatively low interest rates. It would be fine, though! The top tier law school I was attending boasted of near-certain employment for its grads, and the median salary they listed made my eyes pop. I’d get my degree, get a killer job, and finally check off Stage One of my life.
Except when my three years were up, law firms were in a hiring freeze and barely half of my class had paying jobs. It took countless rounds of interviews, but about two weeks before graduation, I could relax. I was employed — one of the lucky ones.
Thank you to Alisha for sharing such a personal essay with the world.
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Bawdy Bookworms has announced the theme of their next box: Into the Saddle! Several of us have loved and reviewed this subscription box, which always comes with a book, an adult toy, and some other odds and ends to go along with everything. Boxes ship out July 5th!
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Goodreads has released their list of the “hottest books of the summer.” Which ones are on your TBR list? As an aside, I wish the list was a bit easier to navigate than one huge list where I keep scrolling and scrolling.
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Want something cute? How about a grandma trying to name Pokemon?
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Don’t forget to share what super cool things you’ve seen, read, or listened to this week! And if you have anything you think we’d like to post on a future Wednesday Links, send it my way!
That pokemon video is cute~
Anywhoodles. I hope that Brewery event turns (turned?) out well.
Help me, I’ve fallen into the comments of that Goodreads post where men are complaining that the list isn’t for them and are complaining about being marginalized on the Goodreads site. My eyes have rolled so far back into my head I can see my brain.
A book about a sports team and some mysteries aren’t man aligned enough?
Wonder if these people forgot about their tbr lists. I had decided to dig into that book pile with some anime season watching periods a few times.
@Brianna: Why did I look? It’s not like I didn’t know there would be a white man crying out for white male diversity and demanding equal representation for his <20% minority in that venue.
I like my blood pressure all the way up right before bedtime. Make that bruxism guard earn its keep!
My second cousin was well into her thirties before she married, and older than that when she had kids. It’s 20 years later and they’re still going strong.
The advice of Alisha Rai’s sister is to settle with “the first man who annoys you the least”. Either the sister is simply lousy at advice (That’s the same as love, right?)or “the tall love of her life” is a courtesy title.
Good on Alisha for not giving, entirely, in to her family’s bitter take. It’s a shame when people treat marriage as a thing to be got, rather than a joy to be found.
@Ren Benton: I looked too, just because today wasn’t crappy enough, I guess. But at least they were only whiny passive aggressive, not actually virulently aggressive, complainers! (Thankfully I’m married to a Canadian whose mother ran an indy bookstore when he was a child so this ‘where are the men’s books’ is not a thing I have ever heard from his mouth.)
And the Alisha Rai story was my life post-law school too. My secretary once gave me a six balloons for my birthday and told me I had to find six different people to give them to — because I had to get out of the office and meet people. I’m about 15 years older than Alisha, so this was all prior to easy internet dating. At one point, I ended up coming back to the office to work late, still with one balloon lingering after two days of trying … I ended up giving it to a really good looking carpet installer (we did not see jeans that fit like THAT around the firm very often, let me say), with a story about my secretary, etc … and then he was super nice and sort of came back by my office when he was done and said he was leaving … and I was SO FREAKING BUSY that I didn’t pick up that he wanted me to ask him for a drink or his number or something until he was long gone … work.
But I was “lucky” and had half the law school debt, since I went to a public law school, and so I was able to quit that firm, get a roommate to move into my dining room to share costs, and switch to a more humane job en route to finding a lasting partner. But realistically, I couldn’t actually pay all my bills every month with those reasonable hours, and I cried a lot about money, not to mention that I was free- lancing in the era before the Affordable Care Act (talk about fear! and my emergency only policy was a huge expense!) and so I ended up volunteering for a deployment with the National Guard as a way to pay my bills down.
I do wonder how school debt also factors into decisions about having children, or how many children. We’re the only nation that does this. The burden is crazy.
Just came across this podcast and listened last night for the first time: http://www.spilledmilkpodcast.com/ Two people start out talking about food — and end up going completely off the rails. If you need something to make you laugh, this should do it.
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That alisha rai article was absolutely amazing. It’s written so simply but it gives me all the feels – especially since I also experience the ‘any progress’ style questions ALL the time.