Happy 10th Anniversary, Smart Bitches!

One thing I’ve been working on over the past two years is to summarize the purpose and goal of the site in as few words as possible, which I think I’ve done: we connect romance fans with one another, and with the books they want to read. Encompassing the goal of the site was a lot easier than trying to sum up 10 years.

I wanted to try to explain why you and your presence in the Bitchery community is so valuable, and how much I appreciate that you’re here. The site wouldn’t be what it is today without your being here. I also wanted to ask RedHeadedGirl, Elyse, Carrie and Amanda to talk about the site, too, so forgive us while we get a little schmoopy up in here.

RedHeadedGirl:

I have to thank Cleolinda, who is basically my Internet Fairy Godmother for all of this- I found Smart Bitches when she linked to the Cassie Edwards mishigas. I started reading romance again because of Smart Bitches, and in a very real way, writing for Smart Bitches kept me sane as I went through law school. (Note how many early reviews include something along the lines of “I should be writing a paper but instead I’m writing this!”) I honestly don’t think I would have made it through without this community, and you have all kept me grounded in a very real way in the years since, which I have sorely needed. Finding my (extremely short) sisters in Sarah, Amanda, Elyse, and Carrie has been something I couldn’t have imagined would result when I clicked that link about black-footed ferrets.

What I think is most important is how we value women’s stories- most other genres are very sausage heavy, and romance isn’t valued in the wider world because it’s focused on the things we are taught aren’t important and because it’s created and consumed by women. We can have the “is romance feminist” discussion until we are blue in the face (and we have), but what I think it comes down is that this is primarily women creating, and primarily women consuming. We are making our own stories and discussing them and critiquing them and analysing them and giving those stories the attention they deserve, rather than just saying “lol bodice ripper” and that’s the best part.

Amanda:

Mike Meyers as Linda Richman saying, I'm getting a little verkelmpt talk amongst yourselves

Oh, buddy.

I was almost done with high school. That’s when my romance reading really hit its stride. I devoured books from the library. I was a nonstop reading machine! I came across SBTB when I was in dire need of reading recs and I wasn’t disappointed. I religiously followed the site until I realized an internship was required for my BA degree in Editing, Writing, & Media. The program was new, so they didn’t really help with placement. Taking a shot in the dark, I emailed Sarah. I still have her response. The term “crazy train” was used. I became Sarah’s lackey and food taster (she’s a dangerous woman) for the next year and half. I relocated to Boston and Sarah offered me a permanent position at SBTB. But that’s enough of the boring history stuff.

Being a part of the SBTB family/team/posse/insert your own collective noun here, is something that I count myself lucky for every single day. These women are sisters, therapists, cheerleaders, and everything in between, and my mornings would be so sad without waking up to some ridiculous email from one of them.

RHG: Like, for example: “THERE’S VIDEO OF GRONK READING A GRONKING

Amanda: I googled that so hard that I think I sprained my wrist. And it’s a Vine at a press conference. He says “butt cheeks” and I don’t think I’ve ever seen him look so happy.

On a professional note, the SBTB community and Sarah in particular have opened so many doors for me. I (gasp!) might actually wind up having a career I actually enjoy doing. I’m still amazed at the smiles and cheers of recognition I get when I tell people that I’m part of Smart Bitches.

Ten years is a long time for a blog, I feel. And I couldn’t be happier that Sarah hasn’t suffered a lapse in her insanity just yet, as the fearless conductor on this crazy train. The discussions that have been spawned in the comments, the engagement with readers to make the site bigger and better, the support from my fellow SBTB-ers, it’s all a great ecosystem to be a part of and I sincerely couldn’t be more grateful for the Bitchery.

Carrie:

I honestly can’t remember how I found the website, but it opened up so many new doors for me in terms of reading. Then I won a raffle. The prize was a copy of Maybe This Time, by Jennifer Crusie, and the winner was supposed to submit a review of the book. That was five years ago, and I’ve turned from a random lucky reviewer, to a frequent guest, to a regular reviewer. That first review changed my life in ways I would never have anticipated. Regardless of what I write and where I write it, my home will always be here at SBTB, where I was given my first chance and where I feel inspired and excited every day.

This community, not just the reviewers but also the commenters, is so nurturing and supportive that it was given me the confidence I needed to move on to the next stage of my life. This site has given me, in many ways, the safe base I need in order to go on scary adventures. I feel supported when I want to try to new things – if I make a proposal to Sarah, sometimes she says yes and sometimes no, but she gives every response in a way that encourages me to try another proposal down the line. When I submit a review, I know that the comments may not be in my favor, but they won’t be insulting either.

The books that I have found here have encouraged me to “be the heroine of my own story.” Sarah has taught me that it’s a good thing to ask for what I want. My reviewing sisters have taught me that people who are very different can be best friends. As cheesy as it sounds, this site has truly made me who I am today.

Elyse:

I’m not sure how I found Smart Bitches, but I remember being on vacation in Costa Rica and sitting in the lobby at night (for the Wifi), reading the F+ reviews out loud to my husband and cry-laughing. I think about a year later I emailed Sarah and asked if I could do a test review for her.

I’ve always loved romance novels and I’ve been made to feel ashamed of it, a lot. I started reading them in middle school and getting caught with a book about–whispers–sex would have been mortifying. When I went to college, I studied literature and romance novels were routinely maligned and snorted at. My deep dark secret was that as much I loved reading “serious literature,” I loved reading romance novels more. I actually remember a professor telling us once that someone had the emotional maturity of a Harlequin romance character.

I also worked at a bookstore and the people there were snooty and shitty about romance novels. Again, you were supposed to read “serious” fiction and we stocked romance novels for “those people.”

At some point I lost all my fucks. I realized the sexism inherent in calling a genre written primarily for women, by women, “trash.” But I didn’t have anyone to really talk to romance novels about. I had some friends who read them, but they didn’t love them the way I do. I needed someone who understood the glory and magic in orca-time-travel-penis crazysauce. When I found Smart Bitches I remember having this feeling like “Oh my God, there are people out there just like me,” and that’s so important and profound. At first it was just a validation that yes, there was this great hot pink palace where I could go and meet a community of like-minded people who were so much fun to talk with.

I get what Carrie says when she says the Bitchery made who she is. When you really, really love something and that thing is constantly denigrated, it eats away at a piece of you. When you find a community of people who also love and understand that thing, it’s truly powerful. It’s a validation of you as a person. No one should be ashamed of loving something (unless it’s setting puppies on fire or something, in which case you should be deeply ashamed), and Smart Bitches has given the internet community a resource to point out that, yeah, romance novels are smart and funny and sometimes weird and totally feminist, and they have important things to say, and I’m grateful for it.

Sarah:

I’ve been putting off writing this because it’s too big to encompass with 26 letters in various order. There wouldn’t be a 10th anniversary of Smart Bitches without you. (Yes, you. You look marvelous today, too!)

Because you’re here, hanging out and talking about romances, debating the issues within and about the genre, and being silly and smart (often at the same time), Smart Bitches exists. I have said many times that I don’t take myself seriously at all, but I take the community of SBTB very seriously, because I value, respect and treasure your presence here so much.

In the past ten years, I’ve learned so much about…everything. For example, the publishing process. I’ve met many of the people who work within publishing and the people who wish to change the way it works. I’ve watched the spotlight of attention on the accomplishments and strengths of the romance genre show up almost annually and then disappear (and it’s usually around Valentine’s Day, so get ready). I started as a reader who knew very little about writing reviews or about the publishing industry and became someone who has learned a lot about the intricacies of the industry and became a traditionally published and self-published author, too. I never expected any of that. I am enormously thankful.

I joke that I vastly underestimated two things when Smart Bitches began, one being the number of readers who love romance and feel isolated and alone because they have no one to talk to about the books they love. But it’s not actually a joke – it’s very true. I still receive email about once or twice a month from new readers who say, “Where have you been all my life? I have no one to talk about romance novels with, and here you all are!” That feeling is true for me every day. I am grateful beyond measure that I get to hang out with with people like you who understand and love the things I love. I’m not alone and isolated in my love of stories about people who get caught in the snow, and my frustration with fruitbasket descriptions of nipples.

Thank you for sharing your opinions of books, your recommendations and your rage, and your time and energy with us. Having a safe and welcoming space in which to discuss honestly how the books we read make us feel is vitally important, and it wouldn’t exist without you.

Thank you for being here, and for making ten years possible. May we all live happily ever after.

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  1. Happy anniversary to all of you! Your posts are a delight to me – always intelligent, frequently funny, and occasionally thought provoking… and I have been known to go scouring the DNF and other bad reviews if I am in a miserable mood and need cheering up…

    love

    Catherine

  2. Liz says:

    Happy anniversary to you! I’m just going to say thank you for the hilarious reviews, unabashed love of crazysauce, and snark. You have gotten me through some decidedly not fun days and well, made me smile more on some of the good days.

  3. kkw says:

    Happy anniversary! Thank you for what you do.

  4. Happy anniversary! Thank you for the awesomesauce.

  5. Coco says:

    Happy Anniversary!

  6. PeggyL says:

    Happy 10th birthday, Smart Bitches!

    Thank you for sharing and the laughs.

  7. Maureen says:

    Happy Anniversary! It’s a pleasure to visit you each day.

  8. Jenny says:

    Congratulations on 10 years – here’s to many more to come. Thanks so much for everything you do, it’s very greatly appreciated 🙂

  9. TaraR says:

    Even though I have mostly been a lurker for the last 7 years or so, my day wouldn’t be complete without a visit here. Happy anniversary!

  10. Bea says:

    Happy anniversary! I so wish to be an English native speaker right now so that I could put into words all I have to say… SBTB is the first site I come to in the mornings. Like Elyse, I studied Literature at college and read all the serious books which I enjoyed. I discovered romance books in my late twenties when trying to improve my English. As you can see, it was a path of no return. I’m now in my fifties and romance is the main genre I read. The advent of the internet, ebooks and ereaders opened a door that was closed to me until that moment. I had access to thousands of books I could read in peace with no one sneering at me. Sheer bliss! I found your site after reading an article that mentioned Sarah’s Beyond Heaving Bossoms and this blog. I googled it and here I am after some years, I don’t recall how many. I’m sooooo grateful for this site and the incredible community of followers and commenters, so very clever and fun and respectful in this era of name-calling and insults in the social networks. Thank you smart ladies for running this site and The Bitchery at large for the wit and laughs. My favorite bits? The low grade reviews, the Rec League, the HaBOs, the books on sale posts….now that I think about it, I love everything about this site and most especially the sense of belonging to this community even if I live two continents away. Keep rocking ladies and a toast to you on your tenth anniversary!!

  11. Susan says:

    Happy Anniversary. Thanks for making such a fun and welcoming home for us. My day is not complete until I’ve dropped by for a visit with the Bitchery.

  12. Helen R-S says:

    Happy anniversary Smart Bitches! Thank you all so much for the wonderful reviews, and all the fun and frivolity. This is definitely one of my favourite websites, and I get so much enjoyment out of reading the reviews (especially the ones of crazysauce books). I’ve found some great books thanks to your recommendations. I hope you’ll still be here in 10 years time, and 10 years after that…and forever really!

  13. Sandy l says:

    Happy Anniversary!

  14. Lisa J says:

    The best of anniversaries to you all. I visit often and love all of the comments, reviews, and WTFery.

  15. K.O'Rear says:

    Happy Anniversary! I may be new to loving romance novels, but I adore this site and because of it I’ve discovered that Romance novels aren’t all bodice rippers. Here’s to many more years to come.

  16. Mimi K says:

    Happy Happy Blog Birthday! 10 years is AmazinG!

  17. tealadytoo says:

    Happy Anniversary! And many more!

  18. lina says:

    Happy 10th! It takes a lot of planning and a lot of love to continue to provide an atmosphere so smart and welcoming. Thank you for being the friend who is into romance as much as I am. Thanks for the reviews, recommendations, and laughs!

  19. Nam says:

    Happy Anniversary! I came late to the game but so glad I’m here. Congrats.

  20. Lostshadows says:

    Happy Anniversary!

    Not only have you helped me find some great books, this site also brought me back to reading romance after a long hiatus. (I just had to pick up a book titled Beyond Heaving Bosoms and see what it was about.)

  21. oozzeee says:

    Happy anniversary..

  22. KimmieB says:

    Happy Anniversary! I’ve been a reader almost since the beginning, but I got my first real taste of the community when I went to a reading of Beyond Heaving Bosoms by Candy. She was hilarious, the place was packed with like-minded ladies, and I felt like I had really met my people. Here’s to many more!

  23. Jen says:

    Another huge happy anniversary here! I suspect SBTB has impacted more lives than the average website because there are so many of us out there who love romance but are made to feel embarrassed about it. I love that you don’t take romance TOO seriously, though. That’s not to say you denigrate it in any way, but you aren’t afraid to laugh at what makes it funny, which I so, so appreciate. So thank you to Sarah, RHG, Carrie, Amanda, Elyse, and everyone else who contributed in some way to this awesome space. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  24. Happy tenth anniversary and may there be many, many more!

    I love the snarky, insightful reviews, and how positive this site is about the genre. I love the community here. Most of all, I love the fact that I just received a box of paperback copies of one of my books, and guess what’s on the cover? A quote from CarrieS’s review. I was thrilled. 🙂

  25. Samanda says:

    Happy Anniversary!

    I came a bit late to the party–only a couple of years ago–but I visit the site every morning, and have browsed the back files for more delicious bitchery.

    I’ve been a feminist, scholar and reader of romance since before most of you were born–50 years and counting. I didn’t major in English List, medieval history instead, but I still encountered many of the same disparaging comments about fiction by and for women.

    There are truths of the heart which are more important and lasting than most of the truths of scholarship, and those are the ones we celebrate here.

    So congratulations on 10 years and may there be another 10 of celebrating women and our literature!

  26. Mandi says:

    Thank you for your strong, strong sense of community. When I think of this romance community, you are one of the foundations 🙂

  27. DonnaMarie says:

    Like Bea, this always my first stop. I came for the snark, stayed for community. I tell the ladies in my quilt guild the same thing: it is a blessing to find yourself in a room (real or virtual) filled with people willing to share their lives, thoughts and interest with you. Who share your love of something important in your life and respect your opinions about it. This is a special place, and I thank you for it. Happy Anniversary!

  28. Rebekah says:

    Happy anniversary!

  29. Karen says:

    Happy anniversary! Thank you for all of the years of laughter and books.

  30. Happy tenth anniversary! The SBTB site is fresh (in all meanings of the word)and fun, and I wish nothing but the best for all of you in the future!

  31. Alison says:

    Happy anniversary! ????

  32. Rae says:

    Happy Anniversary! I can’t remember how or when I found you all, but I’m guessing one of my cohorts in the interwebs was involved. I do remember however, one of my favorite (and craziest) moments of blog fun was a contest I actually ended up winning (squee!) to name a room (and decorate it) for Nora’s B&B to win the book collection of awesome from the signing done there. Sitting in my living room, reading the suggestions with my husband and our friends (one of which /hates/ romance novels but was rolling with us) was a fantastic (pre-kid) memory.

    Thank you for introducing me to all kinds of fun, good reads and keeping the place safe for us.

  33. Cate M. says:

    Happy Anniversary! This website never fails to give me reasons to be happy, whether it’s the brilliance of F+ books or just seeing people take seriously a genre I love.

  34. LSUReader says:

    Great post, as I’ve come to rely on, from a great blog. Thanks so much. Happy 10th.

  35. Sarah Morgan says:

    Happy Tenth anniversary! Looking forward to the next ten years…….and one day I’m going to know the answer to a HaBo. x

  36. Barb in Maryland says:

    Happy 10th Anniversary! Like many others above, Your site is my first blog stop in the morning. I have learned (the hard way) to finish my tea before I start reading and also to keep the tissues handy. I appreciate all the reviews, sale notices, and especially the HaBOs.
    Your site is one of the few I visit where I make a point of reading all the comments.
    Thanks for the many years of enjoyment and best wishes for many more.

  37. library addict says:

    Happy blogiversary!

  38. azteclady says:

    Thank you, to all the bitches that make up the Bitchery as a whole, for so many endless discussions on all the things that we like about romance, the things that bother us, the thing we miss, the things we want, the things that drive us crazy but can’t do without out, and so much more!

    But specially, thank you, SBSarah, for still being here. For being flexible enough to adapt to change; smart enough to continue learning in a rapidly changing environment; having enough moral fiber to retain your integrity as a reader, as a person and a as journalist, and for being stubborn and strong enough, not just NOT to go away, but to thrive, no matter what has been thrown your way during these ten years.

    Here’s is counting the days into the future, and the next ten years at the Pink Palace of Bitchery!

  39. Kanoko says:

    A very happy and fun-filled decade to the Bitchery. Thank you for the past ten years. Cheers to many more!

  40. Jan says:

    Thank you SBTB and all who contribute to the community. When I grab my first cup of coffee of the morning and sit down at my computer, SBTB is my first stop. Thank you for always being entertaining while continuing to educate me about romance. I can’t tell you the number of wonderful friends I’ve made through my interactions here. A big Muah on this special day! XO

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