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Lurker Y wrote in with one of my least favorite phrases describing feminine arousal:

I am usually a total lurker but i have been looking for a book I read years
ago and its driving me crazyy so i had to email you.

it is about a retired football (i think) player who gets a job (maybe in the
real estate or construction area) and he works with/for a women who went to
high school with him. she was more of a nerd in high school but she had a
crush on him, he never noticed her till now etc…

i think it was published in the eighties, i dont remember a cover, character
names or any other helpful info…

I do remember she tells him that in high school at some pep rally or parade
or something he picked her up and she “creamed herself” i HATE that phrase but it stuck with me

hope you can help!

Lord almighty how I dislike that phrase. It’s right up there when a heroine weeps and not with her eyelids, either. Anyone remember this book?

 

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  1. Nadia says:

    It’s too early to come up with names, but I know I’ve read cunt in erotic romances.  It used to bother me because of negative associations, but not so much any more. Depends on the tone of the book and the character.  When it’s a male internal dialog or sexy talk in a more explicit story, I think it’s more realistic to use cunt or pussy than vagina or a flowery euphemism.  Smacks of the more primal gotta-have-her-now turned-on male.  When it’s a female talking/thinking, the opposite.  Unless she is deliberately amping up the dirty talk for effect or the harder-edged eroticism goes with her character, it jars.  Maybe because I don’t use two words often myself, so if she’s at all like me, she wouldn’t use them much, LOL.

    I prefer cock over dick.  Dick is still too much of an insult from adolescence – why are you insulting your best friend, dude?LMAO! 

    Even with the smutty words, language is used to convey a message.  “I need your cock in my pussy right now!” and “I need you inside me right now!”  have essentially the same meaning.  But in the first one, there is a hint of emotional separation because of the naming of the parts, I get the idea this scene is about the sex.  The second one hints of more intimacy, you inside me, and gives the statement more emotional oomph.  Each have their place in telling a tale.

  2. J says:

    @sycorax – if you’ve ever read Lora Leigh, Shannon McKenna, etc., you’ve definitely come across the word “cunt” in pretty much all the sex scenes – but some authors can definitely have the Hero use the word in a very sexy way!

  3. Pam says:

    I’m not a huge reader of erotica or even particularly graphic romance.  I don’t think specific words or phrases affect me as much as the writing they are imbedded in.  So if your sex scene reads like one of those 70s porn novels with the line drawings on the covers, the cliches will swamp the sexiness every time.  If a scene is well-written and original and fits the characters, it will probably work for me regardless of specific terminology. 

    I finally finished the In Death series not long ago.  It got so I’d just skim the sex scenes, because, though well written, there are just so many ways to describe the act.  However, all this discussion of the relative merits of creaming, wet, damp, moist, weeping, etc. arousal, kind of made me long for Dallas and Roarke to crest that wave one more time.  Made me giggle a bit, and that’s a good thing.

  4. MaryK says:

    I’m a Southerner so I thought I’d weigh in on the use of “baby.”  I don’t see it as referring to an actual helpless, dependent baby but to the idea of a baby as precious/valuable. (And I don’t have kids or particularly want to have them.)  I’m not fond of “dear” myself; it reminds me of the bland, yes-dear sitcom relationships from the days of black and white TV.

    As for the copious moisture descriptions, I think part of the problem is they’re overused as shortcuts.  She makes eye contact with a hunk across the room and all of a sudden she’s dripping?  WHA?!  Maybe she should just find a quiet corner and think herself off if that’s all it takes.

  5. krsylu says:

    cunning of a linguist

    @DreadPirateRachel,
    I can not believe I’m the only one who spewed Coke/tea/coffee/lemonade/water upon reading this wonderful pun!

  6. DreadPirateRachel says:

    @krslu,

    😀

    I guess that’s because we have dirty, dirty minds. Hehehe!

  7. Vicki says:

    I used to have problems with cum until I learned that it is an appropriate spelling for what shows up when he comes.

    As far as female arousal, cream does bother me, both as a reader and as a doc. What happens is that the genital area engorges and becomes more sensitive and wonderful pearly drops make their way down the vagina to lubricate any action that may occur. So I like heat, hot, even throbbing (yeah, I know, it’s usually the hero who throbs). Maybe she should glisten, become slippery with desire, flushed and satiny with expectation. Maybe there could be that twinge of excitement deep in her abdomen, that rush of warmth between her legs, that tingle of arousal. And, yes, cunt and cock are good English words and perfectly acceptable at such times, more so, I agree, than penis or vagina which is what I say in the office. So, come on, ladies who write, let’s get some good words going.

  8. boogenhagen says:

    I think the book is A Compromising Passion by Nell Kincaid,  if I remember correctly,  creaming was involved in a completely salubrious way of course.

    description from back cover courtesy of fictiondb

    As a high-powered theatrical agent, Andrea Sutton made it her business to turn people into stars. But when the rugged ex—first baseman and magazine centerfold Jim Haynes came to her as a client, she was in trouble. Launching an athlete into an acting career was a challenge, but ignoring the man who’d been her fantasy lover since high school was going to be impossible. Then Jim took her in his strong arms and kissed her—and suddenly her fantasy became reality. She’d vowed she’d never mix business with pleasure. How could she have thrown out the rule book for a notorious womanizer who’d vowed to remain single forever? And what was worse—why did it suddenly seem as though no rules applied?

  9. JamiSings says:

    1: After all this off topic stuff I’m praying Boogenhagen is right.

    2: Found out a website is doing a poll on Your Least Favorite Term For The Magic Love Tunnel.

    http://bittenbybooks.com/?p=29575

    It’s along the side there. You can pick up to 4.

  10. Di says:

    SOunds like one of the Chicago Stars book the first one I think by Susan Elizabeth Phillips “It had to be you”

    Not sure about the creaming reference but the rest seems familiar

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