Hoping Jennifer Haymore Kicks Cancer’s Ass

Book CoverAuthor Jennifer Haymore has posted on her blog that she’s been diagnosed with invasive breast cancer and is beginning treatment, which is a long, arduous and utterly not fun road. I wish her every happy ending to this story, and a collection of absolutely fabulous hats during her treatment.

To send positive thoughts her way, I’m going to give away five copies of her latest book to five random commenters. I think just about everyone knows someone who has battled cancer or an illness that requires treatment almost as bad as the illness itself. So what’s your best advice or best wish for Jennifer? Any tips on surviving the survival part? Popsicles and romance novels? Super soft slippers and macrobiotic meals? Bring it on. I’ll select five winners and send the books.

[Disclaimer: I’m not being compensated nor is anyone else funding the giveaway. Objects in mirror may be closer than they appear. Your mileage may vary. Many bags look alike. Cancer blows.]

I hope you kick cancer’s ass, ma’am.

ETA: Lisa Heermann has sent over her pathfinder entitled Cancer Resources for the Innocent Bystander, which she mentioned in the comments below. It’s a guide for anyone who faces cancer as the non-patient.

She also included a .BMP file for an easy-to-make cancer cap for patients, which she says are comfy enough to sleep in.

Right click and do the download thing, please! And big huge thanks to Lisa.

ETAII: The Mama Writers have a post up about breast cancer awareness, including breast self-exam instructions. If you’re not grabbing your own boobies, you should be.

Which inspired me to create this: Grabbin’ My Boobs. Savin’ My Life. You can customize the size, style, and color of the shirt, but all proceeds from the sale will be donated to the Young Survivor Coalition


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  1. 1
    emdee says:

    {{{Positive vibes and wonderful healing go out to Jennifer in her battle against breast cancer. }}}  Sending all things positive to you from the Universe.

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    Debbie says:

    I highly recommend the book “Why I Wore Lipstick to my Mastectomy.” It’s an uplifting look at maintaining your individuality while fighting breast cancer.  All my thoughts and prayers are with you Jennifer.

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    Vicki says:

    Positive vibes headed out. One of my oldest friends had breast cancer as a relatively young woman and is now a 15 year survivor so there is a positive thought, too. To make it even better, a month after she finished chemo, she eloped with one of her students (she taught at the college level so he was well over age).  Don’t let cancer slow you down!

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    Host says:

    So sorry to hear this. I know that eating a lot of fruit will help together with a positive thinking and a lot of laughs. Good Luck!!!

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    Christine says:

    My heart goes out to you and your family. Every woman on my maternal grandfather’s side of the family has died from breast cancer. My grandmother had it as well, including the double mastectomy – we tease that now she can be any breast size she wants – the breasts are really an accessory, but it’s really the family’s and her attempt at humor. Laughing in the face of horror and fear, perhaps.

    If you end up with flakey skin from the drugs/treatment, try something very gentle like goat (or sheep or cow) milk soap. Get the homemade kind, not the mass-produced-I-added-a-dollop-of-milk-and-am-now-selling-it-for-$8-a-bar kind. It really does help.

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    donna ann says:

    Try to stay possitive (remember it’s ok to be angry or depressed, just try not to live there).  Surround yourself with loved ones who will support you.  Try to laugh often and keep up with the at least some of things you love to do (maybe a little less than before or in a different manner) and remember life is worth fighting for.  Positive thoughts may not cure, but it sure does help the medicine work.  Best wishes, prayers, and thoughts heading her way.

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    Fiamma says:

    My heart goes out to Jennifer and her family.
    As an Oncology massage therapist most patients welcome the opportunity to have someone with a light touch which helps ease the nausea and pain. Cancer patients are always being poked and prodded so to have someone give you a gentle neck massage or foot rub during your chemo or infusions is very soothing. I wish I was near her because I would do it myself, but the cancer center at her hospital should have therapists available.

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    Kwana says:

    My heart goes out to her and her family. My advise is to stay focused on what makes her truly happy and know believe that she will be well. Laugh as much as she can and be happy. Take in all the beauty around her and let it feed her in the down sucky times. She will be well. Sending positive thoughts her way.

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    Victoria Dahl says:

    What wonderful suggestions. I am keeping you in my thoughts, Jennifer. And if you ever need a laugh, let me know. I’ll break the ball embargo every day for you.

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    ktg says:

    Good friends who make you laugh and hold you when you cry.

    Kick cancer’s ass Jennifer!

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    Bianca says:

    My heart truly does go out to Jennifer and her family. I dont know if its some sort of co-oincidence, and it sucks, but today my Grandma has been diagnosed with breast cancer too. She lives in England, I live in Australia, so i cant offer guidance through being there in person, but i can through words. I hope that Jennifer can kick cancers ass and so can my Grandma because Cancer is just truly horrible and i wish it on no person, so stay positive and ask for help from the people who love you if you need it. Life is a beautiful thing, so stay positive, even when you dont want to, or when its hard and know you have the support of the people around you, because i support you too. So all the best, hoping that you kick its ass and be able to enjoy life.  Bianca xxx

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    Mary Beth says:

    Take care of yourself and let others take care of you too. Nap if you’re tired, drink chocolate shakes every day if that’s the only thing that appeals to you, watch silly movies and TV shows, buy a few coloring books and crayons. Only hang out with people who are supportive, loving and honest.

    Kick cancer ass.

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    Liza says:

    Keeping Jennifer and her family in my prayers.

  14. 14
    Penelope says:

    Sending good thoughts.

    I’d go for girls’ night with someone doing her nails and chatting, laughing and drinking.

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    Linda says:

    I think that a love story between a man and a woman fighting breast cancer would be the sexiest most romantic thing out there. Keep up the good fight!!

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    Brooks*belle says:

    Saying a prayer and cheering for her to wipe the floor with cancer’s arse! =)

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    Sharon says:

    It doesn’t matter what advice you read or anyone gives on how to cope. Do what works for you!

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    Kristin says:

    Damn…I’m so sorry Jennifer is facing this challenge.  I have had a few friends who’ve survived breast cancer and something I can recommend from watching them is educate yourself, talk to your doctor, and make sure everything is fully explained to you.  Chemo is a bitch but it doesn’t have to destroy you.  If you feel like it is zapping your last bit of strength, talk to your doc.  There are things they can give you to help with chemos side effects.

    Oh yeah, go get Geralyn Lucas’s book Why I Wore Lipstick To My Mastectomy

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    Isalys says:

    I saw her post too and was heartbroken by her news – but I admire her optimism and strength!!  She’s gonna show that cancer who’s boss ;o)

    PS: Don’t worry about entering me for a copy of the book.  I already have it and loved every page =)

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    Stelly says:

    My grandmother is living with cancer right now.  She says that the best thing for her is spending time with friends and family.

    Good thoughts being sent your way Jennifer.

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    Fedora says:

    Jennifer, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers—focus on taking care of yourself, and don’t worry about all the rest!  We’ll all pulling for you!

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    Cathy says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Here are some things I remember from helping a friend through chemo:

    - audio books, especially humorous essays which you can listen to in small doses—Robert Krulwich, David Sedaris, etc.
    – lemon drops to suck on
    – funny movies where you already know the plot, or the plot doesn’t make sense anyway, so it doesn’t matter if you fade in and out—think “A Fish Called Wanda”.

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    Venetia says:

    Good luck Jennifer!

    A 30-year-old friend of mine was diagnosed with invasive breast cancer last year. Her baby was 6 months old at the time. She had a double mastectomy, chemo, radiation, she was horribly ill – but she’s now doing really well. Her mother and aunt also survived breast cancer.

    My mother was also diagnosed with breast cancer late last year. She had surgery, chemo and radiation and while it exhausted it her, she’s now doing just fine!

    Top tip? Everyone’s experience is different so do what works for you, not what other people say should work for you.

    Having said that, somthing highly reccomended by Mum’s radiation people – pawpaw ointment is hard on your clothes but it is excellent for radiation burns.

    Also – my mum and our friend enjoyed discovering wigs. They lost their hair, yes, but they got to try whole new looks and Mum now has three wigs and she plans to keep wearing them! It was somthing that made them smile even when they were feeling horrid.

    Best wishes to Jennifer.

  24. 24

    Ah, hell. :(

    I haven’t read any of her work, but I have every sympathy for a fellow breast cancer survivor. I was fortunate, mine was non-invasive, but I still had to have radiation treatment and a mastectomy. My mother was a cancer victim as well, so I know from cancer sucking.

    Hang in there, Ms. Haymore.

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    Beki says:

    My girlfriend, Kim, was diagnosed with cancer when she was thirty-one.  She kicked its ass all over the place for seven years before she just f-ing wore out.  And in all that time, she was such a revelation of good humor about it.  She was Uncle Fester for Halloween one year, Charlie Brown another.  With her type of cancer (she was diagnosed at stage 3b and was hellabad already), she was lucky to live close to Duke and she swore up and down the only reason she made it so long was the option to take the experimental treatments.  We just lost her in January, just after she turned 38.  But I watched her fight for every good day, every smile, every opportunity to do what SHE wanted to do instead of what that cancer wanted her to do.

    So, advice?  Eat whatever tastes good and you can keep down.  Drink LOTS of water, juices, again, anything that’s yummy.  Read what makes you feel positive.  Stay away from horrible doomsayers.  Journal every morning to get out the feelings and get on with your day.  Best, best, best of luck to Jennifer.  I’ve never read her, but I will now.

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    Toni says:

    I am a 13 year survivor of cancer and my best advice for surviving treatment- sleep when you are tired. I tried so hard to stay on a normal schedule that I made myself sicker. If you feel like a nap at 3pm, then take it.

    I also recommend not stressing yourself out about what other people were or were not able to accomplish while they went through chemo. Everyone reacts differently to the drugs and no two people have exactly the same experience. My aunt and I went through treatments together with all of the same meds; I lost all of my hair and she didn’t, I threw up after treatments and she got the munchies.

    Take care of yourself and best of luck to you and your family while you are kicking cancer butt!

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    Victoria Dahl says:

    I also recommend not stressing yourself out about what other people were or were not able to accomplish while they went through chemo.

    I love this. Great advice, Toni.

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    My stepmother has breast cancer. And I do know several others who are near my age who have dealt with it.  It’s insidious. My heart goes out to Jennifer and all who love her. Hopefully, she’ll kick this cancer’s ass without too much struggle.

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    Just remember, you are a strong beautiful woman inside and out. If there comes a day when you question that, come talk to us and we will help you remember. Hugs to you and your family.

    Spam word: Mass47. The Mass of our love is 47 times greater than you could ever imagine!

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    Stephanie says:

    Be proud of your accomplishments and realize that you have many, many more to go.  Use this time as a time of learning, and you’ll be the better for it.

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